Not comprehensive, or in any particular order … just what comes to one’s mind upon being gifted approximately 18,250 sunrises ….

• That, when I was a desperate for a date to a fraternity party, she said yes. And the subsequent circles we danced to Meat Loaf (if I recall), and the subsequent goodnight kiss, and the Johnny Walker Red that may or may not have been responsible for the courage behind that kiss, and, indirectly, the subsequent 29 years.

• That I got to be on the same stage with my Dad when he’d close his eyes and shred Harry James’ opening solo on Two O’Clock Jump. The numbers of all the good charts we used to play (#95, #39, #124, #20, #209, #93, #117).

• Gathering with my best childhood friends every Christmas to decorate a tree, sip some Old Crow, and bear witness.
  

• A big sister who let me pick out my first rock n’ roll record at the National Record Mart.

• A daughter who still says yes when I ask her to read with me, and who savors a good turn of phrase as much as her old man.

• A sister who sends me a card, cartoon, or clipping every week to let me know she’s thinking of me.

• A son who asks me to hit golf balls with him even though I am beyond redemption. And on the grander scale, a gracious soul who forgives me for having tried way too hard.

• Running under all those perfectly aimed and timed fly balls Dad launched just within the waffle-pocket reach of the oversized, Reggie Jackson model Rawlings he bought with the best $25 he ever spent.

• Em’s Saturday morning omelets with toast (oh, and while I’m there, her home made mac-n-cheese doused with Red Hot in the manner of holy water).

• An older brother who, like the good offensive lineman he was, wore down my parents’ resistances to allow me a clean running lane through my teenage years.

• Roger Khan, Roger Angell, John Updike, Myron Cope, Gene Collier, David Halberstam, Roy Blount Jr. and all the others who taught me that good sports writers were just good writers who happened to write sports.

• The small graces … squeezing toothpaste on her toothbrush in the morning … walking down the driveway together after taking out the garbage … standing at the sink doing dishes …. blowing kisses to the window while leaving for work in the morning.

• My favorite Sunday night Oldie’s DJ.

• A sister who raised two beautiful souls on her own and now gets to enjoy her grandchildren, and the occasional glass of wine with her baby brother.

• A neighborhood that knew the best recipe for growing adults was to let kids be kids.

• Preserving the capacity to be awed.

• A mom who saved everything, including the before-and-after-orthodontic molds of my teeth, the BEFORE sample prompting my daughter to re-coil, “That looks like it’s from a North American primate,” which is pretty much exactly what the girls in middle school thought, too.

• That holding hands still makes everything OK.

• Parents who gave me time and space to figure stuff out.

• Chicken wings from Drovers, two with everything and fries with gravy from Shorty’s, a Poorboy without tomato, small fries and a Pabst draft from Potter’s.

• Charlie Watts proving that eighth notes and a bemused smile are all one needs to build a pocket big enough to fit an entire world (translation: more is not always better).

• Gerard Manley Hopkins writing his arse off for an audience no bigger or smaller than God herself.

• Laurel Highlands Class of ’88.

• Jazz on a rainy day and blistering guitars ‘neath a starry sky.

• Our only family vacation growing up … to Gettysburg and Valley Forge during the Bicentennial. The sound of pee hitting a coffee can in the backseat on our no-stop drive to the middle of the state.

• The bewitching crackle of a campfire.

• The 1-4-5 progression.

• How the very specific scent and feel of crisp late summer Southwestern PA mornings always makes me think of high school band camp.

• The old, tiny teacher’s desk from Areford that mom salvaged and refinished … that makes me think of where I came from every time I sit down to write at it.

• The best days in my life, summed up in eight words. “I do / It’s a boy / It’s a girl”

• Remembering to look up.

• Making her laugh so hard she cries.

• When they were small enough to carry.

• Knowing it’s in as soon as it leaves your hand.

• That little dip in our neighborhood that breezes you five degrees cooler like a kiss on the cheek when you’re running down its hill

• Ray Charles singing America the Beautiful.

• A dry Kettle One martini and/or listening to Paul Desmond (same thing)

• Every letter I’ve received in the mail and kept.

• Riding in Dad’s Sherwin Williams van on Sunday afternoons looking for a playground hoop with a good net.

• Being Santa Claus. Until you’re not.

• Winning the in-law lottery.

• Peter’s brown-sugar, oven-baked, banana ‘recipe’ he fashioned when he was seven years old, that, when properly muddled with vanilla ice cream, is the key to the universe.

• How the smell of second hand smoke always makes me think of Mom.

• City Lights Bookstore.

• The sound of rain on a metal awning.

• Nieces and nephews who made great daughters and sons, better sisters and brothers, and even better mothers and fathers.

• All the encouragers.

• That I remembered to write most of the good stuff down, to remind me when I forget about the good stuff.

• Chapters left to write.