Fathers and Sons

Soft distances …

While in Richmond for some family medical appointments, I talked my son into getting up and going for a run along a trail close to where we were staying.  

We negotiated an 8 a.m. departure. It was still drizzling when we parked the car and walked over to the trailhead. 

“You want to run together or do our own thing?” he asked. 

I appreciate that he always asks, even though we both know the answer. 

Much faster than me, he typically targets a pace when he runs. 

Anymore I pray in soft distances.

“Do our own thing,” I replied as always, never wanting to hold him back. 

Over the next couple minutes, I watched the back of his shirt get smaller and smaller until it disappeared into the trail’s twisting curves. 

So I was surprised when, about 10 minutes later, I came upon him again — stopped and holding his phone in front of him. 

“What’s up?” I asked, pausing the podcast in my ears. 

“It’s my favorite bird,” he said. 

I didn’t know he had a favorite bird, let alone …

“Wood thrush,” he answered, before I could ask. 

I realized he was recording, not taking photos. 

“Listen ….” 

His one-word invitation disappeared the static of the world … letting pure signal reach my parched ears. 

And for a good half minute, we stood rapt and enraptured. 

Alive in our tracks.

By a small invisible thrush in a vast forest. 

Singing its natural anthem … over a whispering drizzle as cool and coaxing as brushes on a snare drum.

“He’s going through all his tunes,” Peter said, just as I caught the crispest “Ee-oh-lay” — the trilling, thrilling middle and most recognizable of the three-part hymn ‘common’ (in name only) to the male of the species.

The whole time I was mindful that we were simultaneously inconsequential to the proceedings and possibly the most grateful audience he’ll ever perform for. 

After his last note, I held my breath a couple extra seconds — the same greedy and hopeful feeling I always feel after the last firework — just in case he felt like taking another chorus. 

Exhaling broke the spell.  

And we gathered ourselves … as if after a benediction. 

Peter put his phone away. 

I put my podcast back in my ears. 

He took off in front of me. 

And I watched the back of his shirt get smaller in the distance before disappearing once again in the twists of the trail.

As I followed him at a soft distance, I was still warm from having received something significant … the gift of standing next to my son while listening to his favorite bird singing arias in the rain. 

And I prayed the futile and selfish prayer I sometimes pray after a good sermon  — that I will remember this … and cling to it … when the noisy world comes hard for my heart.

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Righteous riffs

Brimming ….

Took advantage of the temperate Sunday afternoon weather to head over to the high school track for a few laps.

Sun was peeking through the clouds, which had me debating whether or not to wear my, um, running hat.

I’m not supposed to be in the sun that much.

I inherited many things from my dad, among them an appreciation for jazz, a penchant for re-telling favorite stories, and bad skin.

The hat’s very … protective, by which I mean it’s large and … wide-brimmed.

Not saying it’s like an Easter bonnet … just that it’s more functional than, you know, a fashion choice.

Gets windy at the track, so I like that it has a string that goes under your chin that you can cinch.

You know, like a manly … bonnet.

Enough sun was peeking through … so I decided to throw caution to the fashion winds and cinch ‘er up.

Was a couple laps in when I saw an older couple walking down the hill that leads to the track.

They were dressed for a walk, not a workout.

The lady wore a long blue coat while her large beau sported a jacket and jeans.

Both wore big, floppy hats atop their silver heads.

I came up behind them a minute later, and as I passed I turned around and said, “I appreciate your hats!”

I chalk up my enthusiasm to a slow jogger’s high.

Gave ‘em a big smilin’ thumbs-up.

You should’ve seen their faces alight.

“Yours too!” the big fella said, gesturing towards my formidable headwear.

“These are my people,” I thought to myself as I turned back around.

Unironically, I might add.

Next lap around the big fella calls after me, “Hey, I like yours … where’d you get it? ”

I turned around and walked backwards so I could face them.

Me: My son got it for me. Not sure where.

He: The brim looks sturdy.

I cannot overstate how delighted I was to be having this conversation.

Me: Indeed it is!

He: Repels UV light, I assume?

Me: Not totally sure, but I assume so?

He: You know, skin cancer’s the most common form of cancer.

Me: I didn’t know that!

Told him of my inheritance from my father.

“These people get me,” I thought to myself as I turned back around.

Next lap I told ‘em that I was inspired by their example.

Meant it, too.

The lady said, “Oh, we’re just walking … while you’re zooming around.”

Zooming’s a relative concept, trust me.

I turned around and walked backwards again.

“The reason I do this is in hopes that someday I’ll live to be as wise as you … and still walking outside on a beautiful day like this.”

You should’ve seen their faces alight.

Yep, my people.

I would’ve tipped my hat to ’em, but it was cinched pretty tight … manly bonnet style.

Gets windy over there sometimes.

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